CONSENT IS CLEAR & ENTHUSIASTIC
- Consent is expressed in verbal and non-verbal ways that are mutually understood
- The absence of "no" is not a "yes"
- "I'm not sure," "I don't know," and "maybe" are not consent
- Silence is not consent
- Your partner's choice in clothing is not consent
- Natural physiological response is not consent. For example: if actions result in an erection and/or lubrication, that is not the same as giving consent.
Consent cannot be obtained under pressure, through psychological or emotional manipulation, or physical violence or threat.
CONSENT IS WILLING
For example: "If you're not ready, that's fine, but if you don't, I'll post those pictures you texted me."
A person who is unable to make a clear and willing decision cannot give consent.
CONSENT IS COHERENT
This includes individuals who are underage, folks who are sleeping, or under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol.
CONSENT IS ONGOING
- Consent must be granted at every phase of sexual activity, every time.
- Consent for a kiss is not also consent to remove your clothes. Always ask "is this OK?"
- Consent given once, is not consent for the future.
- Consent can be withdrawn at any point during sexual activity. For example: "I know I said I was ready, and I thought I was, but I think I want to stop now."